The statistics concerned with successful counseling of marriages are not really encouraging. Couples usually tend to wait until the time things go totally awry before eventually seeking professional help for the purpose of saving their marriage.
Hence, instead of waiting for these issues to blow-up, it is always better to be careful while selecting our partner.
Creating an intentional and intelligent plan to select a partner for life is more reliable than establishing your relationship on risks and chances.
This may not seem very romantic and hence this way of selecting a partner is not yet widely adopted. People justify their decision for not adopting this way by saying that a model can never be created for mature, conscious and aware marriages.
There is one more challenge which is required to be tackled: unconscious thought. Adults have a desire of dating like adolescents.
• They automatically tend to pose like adolescents by marketing their best attributes only while hiding the worst ones.
• All of us have assumptions and unexplored beliefs which continue to stay with us without us even suspecting their existence.
• Most of us have wrong ideas regarding relationships which usually are not very effective.
• We are not sure about the extent to which these relationships control us.
Though people attain maturity with age but when it comes to relating with your partner, they act as teenagers. The male partner desires of having a convenient and uncomplicated physical relationship like their younger years whereas the female partner wants exclusivity and romance.
Despite of their experience, it seems neither of them is mature enough for creating a successful relationship.
Without having the knowledge of how romantic adults relate with one another, these grown ups seem lost in their notions of behaving like adolescents.
Consequently such relationships are often affected by frequent errors, misunderstandings and upsets. Both of them have a desire of getting each other, but they lack the skills required to tackle their individual issues. A responsible behavior would be one in which the partners are absolutely clear and honest about themselves and their desires.
Instead of letting the events forcing you to take repairing action, personal strength and conscious decisions would always yield better results.
Finding ways for resolving the daily challenges in a relationship is an important task for having a happy life. It is upto you to decide that whether your maturity and experience should be used or not.
Hence, instead of waiting for these issues to blow-up, it is always better to be careful while selecting our partner.
Creating an intentional and intelligent plan to select a partner for life is more reliable than establishing your relationship on risks and chances.
This may not seem very romantic and hence this way of selecting a partner is not yet widely adopted. People justify their decision for not adopting this way by saying that a model can never be created for mature, conscious and aware marriages.
There is one more challenge which is required to be tackled: unconscious thought. Adults have a desire of dating like adolescents.
• They automatically tend to pose like adolescents by marketing their best attributes only while hiding the worst ones.
• All of us have assumptions and unexplored beliefs which continue to stay with us without us even suspecting their existence.
• Most of us have wrong ideas regarding relationships which usually are not very effective.
• We are not sure about the extent to which these relationships control us.
Though people attain maturity with age but when it comes to relating with your partner, they act as teenagers. The male partner desires of having a convenient and uncomplicated physical relationship like their younger years whereas the female partner wants exclusivity and romance.
Despite of their experience, it seems neither of them is mature enough for creating a successful relationship.
Without having the knowledge of how romantic adults relate with one another, these grown ups seem lost in their notions of behaving like adolescents.
Consequently such relationships are often affected by frequent errors, misunderstandings and upsets. Both of them have a desire of getting each other, but they lack the skills required to tackle their individual issues. A responsible behavior would be one in which the partners are absolutely clear and honest about themselves and their desires.
Instead of letting the events forcing you to take repairing action, personal strength and conscious decisions would always yield better results.
Finding ways for resolving the daily challenges in a relationship is an important task for having a happy life. It is upto you to decide that whether your maturity and experience should be used or not.
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