Where Did the Love Go?

Have you ever been so in love that you knew that nothing could change the way you felt?  I mean you were so head-over-heels in love that you saw everything through those wonderful rose-colored glasses of love?

You know, I sure felt that way when I fell in love with my husband-to-be!  In fact, I had never felt so good in my life! 

However, things change.  You probably knew that!  But, I totally ignored the good advice that our pre-martial counselor gave to us.  He said that our feeling of 'being in love' would actually fade after we had been married for awhile and then he went over some things that we could do to help 'bring back the love'. 

Uff da! (I thought) - I knew for a fact that I would never, ever feel anything but love for my husband!  Boy, what a goof ball I was!  LOL - but, hey, what did I know at this point?

Well, I did learn quickly, as I'm sure that some of you have too -  that, yes, my feelings can change, even towards my husband!  But, I also learned that there are certain things that you can do to 'bring back the love' into your marriage relationship.

Here's just a few ideas for those of you who would like to recapture those wonderful feelings you first had when you 'fell in love'.

-Take time out each day, even just for 2 minutes, to focus on what you appreciate about your spouse and be sure to tell them!

-Be sure to touch your spouse sweetly and often!

-Find out what your spouse's 'love language' is and express your love in a way that will touch their heart.

Remember, if you are now feeling 'out of love' with your spouse, there was a time and place when you were deeply 'in love'.  If your feelings changed, then can always change back again with a little help and focus. 

Take heart,

Lydia

Romance

The more you understand about any subject, the more interesting it becomes. As you read this article you'll find that the subject of Romance is certainly no exception.

 

If your Romance facts are out-of-date, how will that affect your actions and decisions? Make certain you don't let important Romance information slip by you.

The ultimate and perfect relationship is something that most of us dream of. So many of us yearn to be that perfect woman, that every man will fall in love with, and constantly visualize that fairytale romance and the rest of our life with our perfect soul mate.

Why then doesn't it always happen that way with so many of us wondering how we find the right man, why do we always end up in a failing relationship or why doesn't he call.

Relationships are so frustrating leaving us stressed, distraught and confused, never quite knowing what we have done wrong and wondering what he see in her rather than us.

You see those women who always have their man, have great relationships and can have the pick of the crop. Their relationships are always perfect, full of excitement with great men and the ideal life. Why do some women have such a perfect relationship and a perfect life when others have to suffer relationships that are dull, unfulfilling, boring or even non existent? Don?t you just wish you could really understand men?

Don?t despair, did you know that as a woman, by virtue of your femininity, you have the power at you finger tips to make men fall in love with you, make men want to spend the rest of their lives with you, influence the way they think and persuade them to give you want your heart desires.

If you find it difficult to attract the right man, sustain a relationship, keep the interest of your partner or persuade the love of your life to get down on one knee don?t despair, all women have the power to get their man by learning how to be their selves and focusing on their individuality.

Have you noticed that women who attract men like magnets aren't necessarily beautiful, in fact many a beautiful women never attracts the perfect man, just the ones that can?t see beyond the cover and are quick to dump their trophies at the drop of a hat. Many of these women are never loved for who they are but purely for what they look like and once the looks go then they can kiss their marriage goodbye.

The women who attract their "perfect" man aren't necessarily the most beautiful they are women who feel comfortable about themselves, know how to present the assets that they have and know how to please their man.

The ability to attract the right man is a learned skill, not something you are just born with, not some magical attraction that can only happen if you that ?other? person, it?s an art but a learned art that will enable YOU to attract and keep your dream man.

Men might not admit it but they want to be lured, seduced and possessed by their women and will happily give anything to the women that makes him feel special, good about himself and totally fulfilled.
 

When word gets around about your command of Romance facts, others who need to know about Romance will start to actively seek you out.

Ole to Romance!

My parents were going out of town for a week so I decided to do something special for my boyfriend. He has always talked about going to Cancun so I figured I would make a candle light dinner and have a Mexican theme

I went to the store and purchased everything I thought was right for the occasion and for dinner I purchased Mexican food. On the way out I saw a Mexican sombrero and the what I would call the carpet to sit on.  I thought: "Wow that would finish the touch!"

When I got home I started dinner, and then went up to take a shower.  Finally it was time.  The doorbell rang and in he walked in shock.  We sat and had a few margarita's.  Then I put dinner on the table and we started eating . If i may say so myself it was great

After dinner we had our dessert..  He looked at me and said  " This is the most romantic dinner I have ever had.  He kissed me and then we went in the living room and listened to music.

Well all I can say is I did a great job of creating a romantic dinner and atmosphere.  The night was the best I had in a long time.

 

Hawaiian surprise

My parents went out for the weekend and I decided to do something totally out of character for my boyfriend.  This was gonna be the first time we were actually alone in a month or so. 

I started by going to the store buying his favorite dinner desert and candles.  I figured I was gonna go all out.  When I got home I picked up the house.  Then I thought he has always wanted to go to a tropical island.  So back to the store I went .  I purchased things to make the house seem like we were in Hawaii.  I purchased lei's, a grass skirt and the works.  I was so excited about the event.

When I got home I put everything in place, then went up and took a shower.  Got dressed in my lei,  and by then dinner was ready.  Of course it was Hawaiian food. 

Then the time came.  The doorbell rang and In he walked.  He was totally shocked.  We sat down to a candle lit dinner with some Hawaiian music playing.  After dinner i fed him his Hawaiian dessert then we sat and talked for awhile.  It was the best time I ever had.